One of the things they teach you in psychotherapy 101 is that it isn’t the therapist’s role to tell patients whether or not they should end a relationship. After all, isn’t it up to you to decide your own course? Well – Today I am going to break that rule.  I’ve seen too many people wasting too many years suffering and hoping beyond hope that somehow their dead-end relationships will magically get better–All the while I knew full-well the relationship was going to fail anyway.

Someone close to you has betrayed you. And you are desperately trying to find it in your heart to forgive him. You want to keep the relationship together. Every time you think you have gotten to a place of forgiveness, the old feelings come back and you blame yourself for not being able to “get over it”.

You want to know the most crucial ingredient for a healthy and fulfilling marriage? It’s the same ingredient for healthy relationships with your parents, your kids, and your friends. It’s a magical feeling called EMPATHY.

Rage is like an orgasm—Once it starts, good luck trying to stop it. The only way to deal with rage is to stop it BEFORE it starts.

You are rage-prone because you are the kind of person who gets personally injured when you feel misunderstood or invalidated. Your anger turns to rage because you are desperate and weak. You freak-out because you feel like control is being taken away from you and the only way to get it back, is to come out swinging.

Women are crazy jealous.  They will think you are cheating even when you aren’t.

She constantly questions your integrity—She checks up on you when you’re out with friends. She gives you a hard time when you haven’t replied to her texts in the last 20 minutes. If you even look at another female, she freaks out.

So–Why are women so possessive, and smothering?

There’s way too much emphasis in this society on being the best. You’re taught that if you don’t strive to be the best at everything you do, then there’s just no point in doing it at all. But if everyone can’t be the best, what are we saying about people who are just good-enough?

You find yourself in love with your best friend’s wife. You realize you hate your college major. You no longer feel attracted to your partner. This is very inconvenient isn’t it? Don’t you wish you could just stop feeling that way?

Women are having too much non-sex. That’s the kind of sex that you think is sex but really isn’t sex. You are subjecting yourself to non-sex because nobody ever told you the definition of having sex to begin with.

So…Here it is: The true definition of sex is ANY activity you engage in that you’ve intended for YOUR sexual arousal. Hmmm…So let’s take a little quiz, shall we?

For over 30 years, Dr. Cynthia Pizzulli is an individual, marriage, and couples therapy help others have healthy relationships. Specializing in a wide range of troublesome life battles I believe that there is not just “one way” to do treatment.

I get so many requests to re-post this to my Facebook page, I decided to add it to my website…I hope this clears up any questions you have about what’s going on inside your man’s head.