I can help you identify the ï¬ve deal-breakers inherent in your marriage,
and put you on the path to managing them. Yes, I said manage. I’m not here with some supernatural cure-all for marital discourse, or the latest so-called equation to living in glassy-eyed bliss. As a couple, you will ï¬ght. That’s OK! Fighting, especially with someone you’re expected to face every day for the rest of your life is perfectly natural.
They key is to manage your disagreements so they don’t become the weapons you and your partner use to slowly and maliciously take down your own marriage. So don’t expect to talk to me, and start waking up every morning surrounded by a swooning companion, and whistling forrest creatures. This isn’t a Disney movie, it’s a real-life relationship. Just know that when you do follow my guide to uncovering and managing your ï¬ve deal-breakers, you will wake up every day knowing that there’s no challenge you and your partner can’t face.
So what are these ï¬ve deal-breakers? More often than not, the ï¬ve major
disagreements you and your partner face will fall under the following categories: Sex, Time, Money, Parenting, Collateral Relationships (In-laws/Friends). Within those categories I will lead you on a journey to discover the source of your discontent. People try to ignore these issues thinking that one day they’ll just, â€œgo away.â€ Wrong. They’ll never go away, and they will kill your relationship. Identifying your deal-breakers will take incredible honesty, especially if you think one or more of your deal-breakers might be hurtful to your partner. But you have to let it out. You have to speak the truth. You can’t begin to heal unless the symptoms are known. If you keep the symptoms hidden, they will never be treated, and your ï¬ghts will devolve into a volatile disease that eats away at your relationship. Your healing will not only teach you to be honest, but it will also teach you to listen unconditionally, tolerate injuries, be aware of feelings potholes, be empathetic, and manage expectations. Learn from me, and I promise these lessons will rescue your marriage not just in the short term, but for the long haul.
How do I know I can save your marriage? Not only have I spent the last eighteen years nursing couples back to health with my methodology, I’ve also been happily married for over 20 years. Through my own marriage, I know what it is to feel life your issues are unsolvable because during the ï¬rst two years of out marriage my husband and I were experts at hosting knock-down drag-out ï¬ghts over anything and everything we let set us off. If I didn’t ï¬gure out how to control our disagreements and channel them into productive conversation, we would have been in line at the divorce ofï¬ce pretty quickly.
Thankfully, I discovered my method, used it to save my own marriage and the marriages of so many clients, and now I’m here to share it with you.