How do you know if you need couples counseling?
So you’ve been bickering more than usual with your partner these days. And if you’re like most folk, you are hoping to try and fix things on your own. But you don’t fill a cavity by yourself do you?
Look – It is perfectly normal for couples to fight. I believe that fighting is a healthy part of any relationship. However, if the problems are nonstop, you are going to find it hard to cope. You are going to get depressed and it is just not necessary to feel that way when there is help available.
You should find yourself a couples counselor if you answer ‘Yes’ to any of these questions:
- Do you feel like your partner doesn’t understand where you’re coming from and/or doesn’t communicate with you?
- Are you feeling a lack of sexual attraction or not feeling like you have enough sex?
- Do you and your partner disagree constantly about money and how it is spent/saved?
- Does your partner have difficulty managing anger and you feel like you are walking on eggshells?
- Are you frustrated that your partner doesn’t make you more of a priority in his/her life?
- Do you constantly have fights about relationships with relatives and friends?
- Does your relationship include constant nagging and stress over household chores?
- Are you and your partner always disagreeing about parenting issues?
Even if you answered ‘yes’ to only one of the above, visiting a couples counselor is a wise choice for you to consider.
How Can Relationship Counseling Assist You?
The goal of relationship counseling is to help couples, partners and spouses understand and identify destructive patterns that get repeated over and over in their relationships. When you focus on learning the truth about why you fight you are able to use the insight to change the way you relate to each other. You will also learn tools to listen and reconnect with your partner.
Every couple fights. But when you learn the healthy way to have conflict, you will feel more empowered, connected and understood in your relationship. The goal is to have a happier life. And the only way to a happier life is more fulfilling relationships.
The truth is, if you wait too long to work on a troubled relationship, it will not survive. You and I both know that the divorce rate is epidemic. It is so sad that great couples have to breakup because they avoided the problem and were ‘too proud’ to see a therapist. Couples counseling is the best way to help you save your relationship or marriage. And yes – Therapy is hard. But it is a heck of a lot easier than a breakup or a divorce is, don’t you think?
Couples counselors have experience working with all sorts of relational situations including:
- Marriage counseling and family guidance (parenting conflict)
- Boyfriend and girlfriend counseling
- Gay and lesbian couples counseling
- Managing sadness, depression and loss after a breakup or divorce.
- Teenage relationships and trouble with boyfriends, girlfriends and parents.
- Issues with blended families dealing with step-Moms and Dads.